So what do you do when the object of your desire is a gay man who is “in the closet” about his sexuality? Are these dating relationships viable? Generally speaking, the prognosis for relationship success tends to be stronger when gay men are of similar “outness” statuses. There tends to be less tension and friction due to the mutual positions they hold with sexual identity comfort. For example, in situations when one man is “out” and the other is “closeted”, the more “out” man often times feels like he has to slip back into the closet to accommodate his partner and this can feel like he’s going backwards in his personal development and can lead to resentment. The more closeted man can often times feel pressured to be more visible and exposed before he’s emotionally ready to handle those situations and can cause a spike in anxiety, and perhaps even withdrawal and disengagement from the relationship.

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How do you know if the guy you’re dating is the right one for you? How can you tell if you’re REALLY with Mr. Right? We live in a society where we are raised believing we deserve and should have the best of everything. In the relationship world of plentiful, I’ve often heard men say they are on a quest for the best-looking guy, the biggest penis, the wealthiest man, etc. So when you eventually meet someone you feel compatible with, it’s not all that uncommon to ask yourself, “But is this ‘The One?’”

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So let’s say you’ve been dating this great guy for a while and then things start to go south. Maybe you’ve been arguing a bit more. Or perhaps you feel a bit more distant and disconnected from each other lately. Or maybe the sex isn’t as good as it once was. One of the most excruciating dating dilemmas is having to make that difficult decision of whether to salvage a relationship or terminate it. These situations are made that much more torturous when you recognize that your partner is really a “good catch” and that you have a lot in common with mutual attraction. But yet something seems off and you’re really torn about what to do, not wanting to make a horrible mistake that you’ll regret for the rest of the your life.

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The decision to reconcile with an ex-boyfriend is one that requires much forethought. A breakup with him occurred previously for a reason and you want to avoid re-enacting old patterns and dynamics by jumping back in too quickly or when the decision is emotionally-driven. This is something that involves a lot of individual reflection, as well as pointed communication with your ex.

One of the questions you want to ask yourself is “Why do I want to get back with him? Why now?” It’s important to explore your motives for wanting to reconnect to ensure they are healthy and pure. If you both have grown personally and made some changes that have strengthened your maturity and responsibility, that might be a positive indicator to consider the situation further. If you’re struggling with loneliness, anxiety about being alone, or fear not being able to find another partner, these would be deemed unhealthy reasons and would be indicative of potentially setting yourselves up to get hurt again. “Am I truly into him or the idea of being with him?” You want to be truly honest with yourself about what lies beneath your desire to get back together.

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Without a strategic plan in place, dating can be an overwhelming experience. Feeling like a “fish out of water”, many gay men may flounder in their efforts to try and find a compatible dating partner, typically being ruled by attraction and chemistry that usually can overshadow the fact that there is little in common beyond that spark. Having a solid understanding of who you are, what you stand for, and what you’re specifically looking for in terms of a partner and a relationship can be the best armor you have in protecting yourself in the dating jungle and in ensuring you’re aligning yourself with the most compatible men you’re meant to meet!

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Growing up gay, we didn’t receive any socialization on rites-of-passage when it comes to love and relationships; the only dating template we had to go on was the male-female variety. While dating and romance can take on similar qualities as our straight counterparts’, there are also some very real differences. With two men, who holds the door open? Who pays for the first date? Who does what? There are no clear, designated roles to follow like straight relationships have. While we are fortunate to not be bound to certain “rules” when it comes to dating, it at the same time can be confusing on how to navigate through various interpersonal situations. It also becomes challenging in trying to determine if the guy you’re seeing is a “keeper” or not based on the blurred roles. What follows are five qualities of gay men that could be considered “a good catch” in helping you to assess whether he’s got the goods!

Do you approach dating with the best of intentions by only screening guys who fit your personal requirements, but then throw that all out the window when that hot Mr. Wrong winks at you from across the room? Worse yet, do you find it difficult to keep all the guys that you’re dating straight and then follow up on a conversation with one that was from a meeting you’d had with a different man? Yikes! For better organization, structure, accountability, (and sanity!), it’s time to start keeping a “Dating Journal” to help you optimize your dating life.

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Do you have a hard time trying to figure out if someone is feeling the same attraction vibe that you are when you meet guys out on the dating circuit? One of the most challenging and frustrating aspects of dating is being able to read the signals you’re receiving from the guy you’re going out with to determine if he’s really interested in you. Does he genuinely have an interest? Or is he just being nice and secretly wants to slither away? While there’s no special formula, here are a few indicators that might signify that the man you’ve just met has a thing for you.

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When you’re dating someone, it’s very important to always be on alert to determine if you and he are compatible for the potential for a long-term relationship. This screening process should be done before and throughout the pre-commitment phase of the relationship. By gauging your goodness-of-fit early on in your dating relationship, you’ll either be laying the foundation for a bond of trust and intimacy or you’ll be disengaging from further connection before becoming too emotionally invested. It’s critical to discover this information as early on in your dating as possible to avoid becoming overly-attached and developing expectations that would likely lead to disappointment and grief. read more >>

Introduction

So you made it through the first date with this new guy and he’s intrigued you. You find him attractive, enjoyable to be around, and with the little bit of information you’ve been able to obtain at your first contact, he seems to meet some of your personal requirements and needs for a potential boyfriend thus far. So now what?

Now you’re about to embark upon the fine art of dating and courtship. Together, the two of you will begin the process of getting to know each other better through going out on dates for fun and recreation and learning about one another in a variety of different contexts and situations. Through this relationship-building process, you’ll slowly begin forming an emotional bond while gauging if the other is compatible with your visions for a life partner. Gaining this wisdom is only possible with experience and exposure to each other as you learn about each other’s preferences, personalities, needs, goals, dreams, etc.

This article will offer a checklist of qualities and characteristics to be on the lookout for as you’re forming your impressions about your new dating partner. This can help guide you in making sound decisions about your goodness-of-fit with him, as well as to guard against any “red flags” that you may stumble upon along the way so you don’t get embroiled into an unhealthy relationship.

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