Hi Dr. Brian:

I recently ended an 11-year relationship and met someone who was the catalyst to give me the courage to do so. He wasn’t the cause for the demise of my relationship, but only after meeting this new guy that I began to see what my life could be like and realized all that I had been missing. I am often plagued with insecurities and lack of trust and I certainly don’t want these feelings to ruin the beginning of something with this new man. He is very independent, and has never really been in a long-term relationship before and seems to require a lot of time alone. I, on the other hand, am someone who longs to be near the person I am with and at times like to have my own personal space. What is your advice on giving someone their personal space but helping him to see that spending time together is equally important to forging a strong bond and the foundation for a successful and lasting relationship? read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’m 23 and met a guy that I like a few months ago. I tried to kiss him on the second date, but he refused. Since then, I’ve been getting mixed signals from him. He calls me and we talk for hours on the phone. But when I’m alone with him in-person, he treats me as a friend and nothing more.  Why does he talk to me for hours on the phone when he knows how I feel about him? read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’m new to dating men and this is the first relationship I’ve been in with a man. I’m not sure if the guy I’m involved with really loves me the way I do him. He’s not really blessed financially and I tend to support him with a lot of his needs. I can’t help but wonder if he’s clinging on to me for that reason. I love him, but I don’t want to continue the relationship if he’s only with me for that purpose. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian,

I’m an experienced dater who is dating someone quite shy. Things have  been going well over the last several months, and I’ve been well-behaved and considerate. I’ve also been sure to live my own life while getting caught up in all the feelings associated a budding  “interest.” While things are going well, I’ve vocalized my “like” for him, when in fact, I’ve got some pretty strong feelings for him. He’s so shy and  quiet, I’m scared to turn him off. And, he’s never been in a  relationship before.  So, do you have any advice? I feel as though there is a communication deficit and I’d like to bridge the gap, encouraging him  to express what it is he might feel for me, while respecting his gentler nature. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’ve recently started seeing a guy and things are going really well so far. He is open, genuine, and I’m very attracted to him and he seems to reciprocate my feelings of interest. My problem is that I have low self-esteem and I’m concerned about various things, such as my liking to view pornography and my fear that I’ll cheat on him as a form of self-sabotage. I’m working with a therapist, but I’m still struggling with feelings of insecurity and fear. Would it be best to kill the relationship until I can work these things out? read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

My boyfriend recently broke up with me and reconciled with his ex-boyfriend. This came as a complete shock and completely tore my heart apart. It’s something neither of us expected he could ever do. We were together for over 7 months and blissfully happy, even having committed to moving in together a couple months ago at his suggestion. It’s almost been a month since our breakup and I don’t know what to do. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I have met a guy that I really like, but I don’t know what to do because I’ve never really dated before. He is great and is someone I can see myself being with for a long time. I don’t want to mess this up…what should I do?

Dating Virgin read more >>

Dear Coach:

I’m 23 and met a guy about two months ago. I tried to kiss him on the second date, but he refused. Since then, I keep getting mixed signals from him. He calls me and we talk for hours on the phone. But when I am alone with him, he treats me as if I was nothing more than a friend. Why does he do this to me when he knows how I feel about him?  I want to talk to him about this, but how?

Perplexed read more >>

Dear Coach:

My ex-boyfriend wants to get back with me after a recent breakup. Should we reconcile? read more >>