Dear Dr. Brian:

I have met a guy that I really like, but I don’t know what to do because I’ve never really dated before. He is great and is someone I can see myself being with for a long time. I don’t want to mess this up…what should I do?

Dating Virgin read more >>

Dear Coach:

I’m 23 and met a guy about two months ago. I tried to kiss him on the second date, but he refused. Since then, I keep getting mixed signals from him. He calls me and we talk for hours on the phone. But when I am alone with him, he treats me as if I was nothing more than a friend. Why does he do this to me when he knows how I feel about him?  I want to talk to him about this, but how?

Perplexed read more >>

Dear Coach:

My ex-boyfriend wants to get back with me after a recent breakup. Should we reconcile? read more >>

Introduction

One of the most common complaints I receive from single gay men about the dating scene is their frustration and pain of wearing “the battle scars” of mistreatment at the hands of other men they’ve met for potential friendship and dating. “Why doesn’t he call me back when he says he will?” “Why did he say he was interested and then I find him online cruising for other guys?” “I found out Mr. Wonderful was married!” “These guys are so rude and crass in those Internet chatrooms!”  These are just a few of the many scenarios described by many singles who report feeling jaded by the actions of their fellow gay brothers who have slighted them or made them feel “less than” as they navigate their way through the dating jungle. read more >>

Dear Coach:

My ex and I broke up a couple of months ago, but since then  he’s continuously trying to get in touch with my friends and me  through email, text, calls, Facebook, etc. He won’t leave me or my friends alone!

If I block him online,  then he just make a new email.  It’s getting kind of ridiculous and annoying, and just generally not right. What makes it worse is that whenever he gets in contact with me or  anyone else he’s constantly lying about me, and when he does reach me, he just keeps telling me about everything in his life  and I just dont want to hear it. I have no idea how to just stop him. Any advice would be awesome, thanks. 

Harrassed read more >>

Dear Coach:

I am new to gay dating and have my first date coming up soon. I’ve 
never been on a date with a man and there are a few things I’ve always 
wondered about. Who pays?

We met online and both drive at least an hour to reach each other, he 
drives further, so do I pay? Or do we pay for each other or ourselves? 
I am very confused about that! Also, do I bring him a gift to be 
romantic? We talk on the phone a lot and if I was dating a girl I 
would bring her a rose, but would that just be weird to bring a guy a 
flower or candies or something? I really like him and want to impress 
him! Do I pull his chair out? Or is that a little ridiculous? We have 
already stated no sex on the first date, but is a kiss okay? If I give 
him a kiss right when I approach him I think that sets the wrong tone, 
but I don’t want to seem like a prude either!

If you could put my mind at ease on these silly frivolous things, I would greatly appreciate it!

Thanks, Jittered read more >>

Dear Coach:

I have met a GREAT guy and we spend every moment together and have a lot of fun. After 5 weeks of dating we kissed, and a week later we had non-stop sex for four days straight. His ex found out that he was starting to see a new guy (me!) and decides to mess with his head. They got into a big fight and now the ex is out of the picture again and the guy I’m seeing realizes that he was trying to sabotage him. We are still spending a lot of time together and he has asked me away on a trip for New Year’s Eve, which I have accepted. read more >>

When you’re on the dating scene, it can seem overwhelming trying to remain centered on staying true to your personal requirements for a compatible partner and potential relationship when you have so many competing forces vying for your attention. Not only do you have to keep the other parts of your life (work, family, friends, recreation, etc.) in balance and attended to, but you also can become easily distracted and confused when you meet a variety of men as potential dating prospects who trigger various forms of chemistry and attraction within you that may or may not necessarily align with your vision for an ideal partner. For example, have you ever been in a situation where you met a totally hot guy who filled you with feelings of lust and were tempted to continue seeing him despite the fact you saw “red flags” of his incompatibility with your values? Yep, we’ve all been there and it can create all sorts of inner turmoil and indecision if you let it. read more >>

It can be pretty challenging trying to locate and meet compatible dating partners that mesh with your personality, value system, and attraction needs. These difficulties can be compounded for gay singles. It’s not that easy to differentiate who is straight or gay at the local supermarket, let alone who is single and available. Or what if you’re not into the gay bar scene? What if you don’t have access to a gay community because you live in a rural area or if your lifestyle doesn’t place you in situations where you would have much exposure to other gay singles? It’s tough! Thankfully, the advent of the Internet has given singles yet another venue to access each other with the presence of personals and matchmaking sites. These are all not created equal, however! read more >>