I was interviewed by Ian Bassingthwaighte from Esquire Magazine for an article in their sex column in the publication’s December 2010 issue. It was about the concept of “the power bottom” as it pertains to gay sexuality. Unfortunately, it didn’t make the official pages of the magazine, but below are the questions I was asked with my corresponding answers. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I am somewhat embarrassed to ask you this question, but I figured you would be a great person to ask. I have a HUGE foot fetish and get turned on by men’s feet. Where does a foot fetish come from? I believe we are born with our sexual orientation–so is this something that we are just born with or something that may develop over time? I remember liking men’s feet since I was like 4 years old.

Mr. Foot Guy read more >>

Can Two Tops Date?

Question: I met someone recently and the attraction was immediate. He’s amazing, and we also have everything in common—we just look at each other googley-eyed all the time. We’ve messed around a few times already and it’s so passionate. But here’s the problem: we’re both tops. And I don’t mean versatile tops, I mean we’re both 100% tops-tops. We’ve talked about this, but the issue does seem to have put up some sort of barrier between us. See, for now, it’s fine and it’s not a big deal. But if this relationship actually goes somewhere, which I think it might, this could become a really big deal. Do I end this now, or do I stick with it and try to work it out. And how the heck do I work this out? read more >>

Dear Coach:

I recently broke up with my partner of 21 years; I’m 46 and he’s 50. It’s been quite a roller coaster of emotions and I’m struggling with the following question: Is it selfish of me to ask my partner to have sex even though we are not together? We both still spend a lot of time together because of some prior family obligations to wrap up. We never cheated on each other when we were in our relationship and he broke up with me mainly because I’m unorganized, manage my money poorly, and he feels that I used him. Since then, I’ve been in the process of organizing my life, working a full-time job and paying my own house bills and only ask for help when I can’t fix something around our former house. I’m depressed and frustrated and scared to venture back into the gay dating world. I’m not ready to find another sexual partner yet, and I don’t think he is either. He says he’ll never want to be in another relationship with someone again, whereas I really want him back and wish I’d only listened to him when he tried to communicate to me about our problems.

Sex With An Ex?

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