Question: Can two bottoms in a monogamous gay relationship make it work? The answer to this….a resounding yes! But this will also depend on what you put into the relationship, as well as the attitude that goes along with it. I recently wrote an article about top/top couple pairings, and you can read about this here: http://www.datingadvice.com/advice/can-there-be-two-tops-in-a-relationship
It’s quite interesting to me the increase in questions that have been coming in about the viability of top/top and bottom/bottom relationships, and it’s actually something that’s concerning to me. One of the advantages about being gay in our culture is that we don’t have to be bound by rigid, stereotyped roles. Since we don’t have a template for how our relationships “should” be structured in the way that our straight counterparts do, we have the freedom and flexibility to create and tailor our relationships according to our own wishes, preferences, and talents. What’s concerning is that we seem to be dichotomizing our relationships and sexual roles through a binary lens that not only limits our potential, but also limits the available dating pool.
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I often get letters from guys who are in the throes of dating relationships with men of the same sexual role preference (two tops, the ones doing the penetrating during sex, and two bottoms, the ones being penetrated) and find themselves experiencing frustration and conflict when their sexual fulfillment takes a hit and their needs are unmet. This is a common scenario and can create strain in an otherwise perfectly compatible partnership when everything is aligned just right except the bedroom satisfaction element.
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I’ve had an influx of readers and clients lately who have finally met the man of their dreams and are happily paired in a new dating relationship (after what seems like a lifetime of trying to find him), only to be disappointed and distressed when they discover the sex has gone flat and they’re struggling in the bedroom. They are thrilled to have Mr. Right in their lives, but they miss the sexual highs and adventure of their single life.
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Dear Dr. Brian:
I have been in a relationship with my partner for 12 years and over this period of time, we have both been unfaithful. My partner is very well-endowed and an exhibitionist and enjoys showing off his penis to others. Last week we were driving home from visiting friends when he suggested we stop off at a local cruising area. I agreed, but deep down I felt really sick about it. He ended up getting a couple guys to give him oral sex and I was very hurt and upset by this. Sex with him has become boring and it’s very much one-sided and he has no sense of adventure with me. I’m becoming more and more frustrated and am beginning to feel like the relationship may not last much longer. What do you suggest?
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Dear Coach:
I’m in a new relationship with a great guy. We’re still in the dating
stage. During intimacy, I have times when I’m unable to end by
cumming. It frustrates me more than it does him. What can I do? read more >>
Dear Coach,
I find myself turning to masturbation too much because my partner & I do not have sex. He tells me it is due to medical issues that tend to diminish or extinguish his ‘drive’ while mine is completely functional. I have lived with this situation for a long time, but it is starting to frustrate me and yet I dont want to give up on a good relationship. Every time I talk to him he says he wants to get it fixed but doesn’t do anything about it. I know he’s not lying about the medical issues. I feel like a ‘bad’ person because I use porn and other things to help me get relief when I need it. What do you think?
Sexually Stalemated read more >>
I’ve been in a relationship for a couple of years and the sex just isn’t there anymore. It was never really great, but now, it’s almost non-existent, which is strange to me because I thought gay men did it constantly. Is it possible to be in love with someone and just not be sexually compatible? How do you make it work in the relationship? read more >>
Introduction
Sex is all the craze nowadays! Everybody wants to be having it and they want it to be out of this world with eyes rolling into the back of their heads and throats sore from all the unbridled shrieking of ecstasy. While sexual bliss seems to be glamorized in our society, what if you and your partner are experiencing troubles in the bedroom behind closed doors? This can be quite traumatizing and a blow to one’s self-esteem and sense of masculinity, particularly since we men are socialized to be adept and skilled at sexual prowess and conquest. These stereotypes of men “always being ready” and “virile with lots of stamina” put a lot of pressure on men to sexually perform like gods and threatens their identity as a man should problems arise in that part of their lives; they can feel like a failure or that they don’t “measure up” because so much emphasis is put on perfectionism in this area. read more >>
Introduction
In our first installment of this article series, you learned about inhibited sexual desire, a very common sexual disorder that plagues millions of couples, and gay partnerships are no exception to this epidemic. You learned about its symptoms, subtypes, and possible causes for its existence in a relationship. In Part 2, some tips and strategies will now be offered on how best to manage and overcome this barrier to intimacy so that your relationship may enjoy the fruitful rewards of a healthy sexual lifestyle. read more >>
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