A study by the University of Michigan asserts that when gay male couples make and keep sexual agreements, this can be an effective HIV prevention strategy. However, according to the study results, more than half of the couples in the sample acknowledged breaking their agreement. Here is an article about the study:  http://www.datingadvice.com/studies/saagcm

What are your thoughts about this?

I was interviewed a few weeks back by Rick Lugash of “How to Master the Inner Game of Gay Dating” , a new site on Facebook that’s dedicated to providing helpful content for gay singles to promote more success in dating. I’m a big fan because I think we share similar visions and there’s some great articles and interviews posted that you should check out if you’re single and looking for Mr. Right. I tried to upload the podcast here for your convenience, but unfortunately the file size was too much for my site, so you can check out my interview and sign up to be a member of their Facebook Group on their Page if you like here .

The discussion deals with the impact that one’s sexual behavior can have when you’re dating and on a quest to find “The One.” It’s certainly a controversial topic for sure! What are your thoughts on casual sex when on the pursuit for a meaningful relationship? Does it help or hurt the cause? What are the boundaries, if any? Post your opinions below and let’s see what we all think about this tricky matter (pun not intended)…

Cheers,

Dr. Brian

Dear Dr. Brian:

I have been in a relationship with my partner for 12 years and over this period of time, we have both been unfaithful. My partner is very well-endowed and an exhibitionist and enjoys showing off his penis to others. Last week we were driving home from visiting friends when he suggested we stop off at a local cruising area. I agreed, but deep down I felt really sick about it. He ended up getting a couple guys to give him oral sex and I was very hurt and upset by this. Sex with him has become boring and it’s very much one-sided and he has no sense of adventure with me. I’m becoming more and more frustrated and am beginning to feel like the relationship may not last much longer. What do you suggest?

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Dear Dr. Brian:

My problem is that every guy I go out with ends up finding me very sexy and they always fall in love too fast. Even though I care about them too, there’s no “chase” and then I lose my sex drive. The more they “hit on” me, the more I question that they are (a) not attractive enough; (b) have low confidence, which is a turn-off for me; (c) are emotionally needy; or (d) their feelings appear to me to be a feminine trait, and in turn I lose sexual interest. I want to be in a relationship, but I lose all desire after about 3 months of being with someone. I also don’t cheat because that’s not my style. Why do I always get turned off when a guy falls in love with me and what can I do about it? I don’t like the “feminine emotional attachment” that a guy in love with me has.

Hot Guy Can’t Fall in Love read more >>

I was interviewed by Ian Bassingthwaighte from Esquire Magazine for an article in their sex column in the publication’s December 2010 issue. It was about the concept of “the power bottom” as it pertains to gay sexuality. Unfortunately, it didn’t make the official pages of the magazine, but below are the questions I was asked with my corresponding answers. read more >>

I was recently interviewed by “Name It” Magazine for an article they were writing about gay relationships and sexuality. One question they asked was, “Why is sex so important to gay men?” Here was my response: read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’ve recently started seeing a guy and things are going really well so far. He is open, genuine, and I’m very attracted to him and he seems to reciprocate my feelings of interest. My problem is that I have low self-esteem and I’m concerned about various things, such as my liking to view pornography and my fear that I’ll cheat on him as a form of self-sabotage. I’m working with a therapist, but I’m still struggling with feelings of insecurity and fear. Would it be best to kill the relationship until I can work these things out? read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I am somewhat embarrassed to ask you this question, but I figured you would be a great person to ask. I have a HUGE foot fetish and get turned on by men’s feet. Where does a foot fetish come from? I believe we are born with our sexual orientation–so is this something that we are just born with or something that may develop over time? I remember liking men’s feet since I was like 4 years old.

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Dear Coach:

I’m in a new relationship with a great guy.  We’re still in the dating 
stage.  During intimacy, I have times when I’m unable to end by 
cumming.  It frustrates me more than it does him.  What can I do? read more >>

Dear Coach:

What can we do to spice up our sex life? I have a younger lover and I
think he is getting bored! read more >>