Dear Dr. Brian:

I am somewhat embarrassed to ask you this question, but I figured you would be a great person to ask. I have a HUGE foot fetish and get turned on by men’s feet. Where does a foot fetish come from? I believe we are born with our sexual orientation–so is this something that we are just born with or something that may develop over time? I remember liking men’s feet since I was like 4 years old.

Mr. Foot Guy read more >>

Dear Coach:

I’m in a new relationship with a great guy.  We’re still in the dating 
stage.  During intimacy, I have times when I’m unable to end by 
cumming.  It frustrates me more than it does him.  What can I do? read more >>

Dear Coach:

What can we do to spice up our sex life? I have a younger lover and I
think he is getting bored! read more >>

Dear Coach,

 I find myself turning to masturbation too much because my partner & I do not have sex. He tells me it is due to medical issues that tend to diminish or extinguish his ‘drive’ while mine is completely functional. I have lived with this situation for a long time, but it is starting to frustrate me and yet I dont want to give up on a good relationship. Every time I talk to him he says he wants to get it fixed but doesn’t do anything about it. I know he’s not lying about the medical issues. I feel like a ‘bad’ person because I use porn and other things to help me get relief when I need it. What do you think?

Sexually Stalemated read more >>

Can Two Tops Date?

Question: I met someone recently and the attraction was immediate. He’s amazing, and we also have everything in common—we just look at each other googley-eyed all the time. We’ve messed around a few times already and it’s so passionate. But here’s the problem: we’re both tops. And I don’t mean versatile tops, I mean we’re both 100% tops-tops. We’ve talked about this, but the issue does seem to have put up some sort of barrier between us. See, for now, it’s fine and it’s not a big deal. But if this relationship actually goes somewhere, which I think it might, this could become a really big deal. Do I end this now, or do I stick with it and try to work it out. And how the heck do I work this out? read more >>

My boyfriend of eight years is trying to spice up our relationship, and I think that’s great. Problem is, he’s suggested going to a clothing-optional gay resort. How do I tell him this is just not my cup of tea without coming off as unadventurous? read more >>

When I got together with my boyfriend, I told him I was a top and he told me he was a bottom, and for six months now, I’ve topped, he’s bottomed. I want to try things the other way around, but every time we go there, he freaks out and can’t perform. Is there anything I can do to get him over his fear? read more >>

I’ve been in a relationship for a couple of years and the sex just isn’t there anymore. It was never really great, but now, it’s almost non-existent, which is strange to me because I thought gay men did it constantly. Is it possible to be in love with someone and just not be sexually compatible? How do you make it work in the relationship? read more >>

Introduction

Sex is all the craze nowadays! Everybody wants to be having it and they want it to be out of this world with eyes rolling into the back of their heads and throats sore from all the unbridled shrieking of ecstasy. While sexual bliss seems to be glamorized in our society, what if you and your partner are experiencing troubles in the bedroom behind closed doors? This can be quite traumatizing and a blow to one’s self-esteem and sense of masculinity, particularly since we men are socialized to be adept and skilled at sexual prowess and conquest. These stereotypes of men “always being ready” and “virile with lots of stamina” put a lot of pressure on men to sexually perform like gods and threatens their identity as a man should problems arise in that part of their lives; they can feel like a failure or that they don’t “measure up” because so much emphasis is put on perfectionism in this area. read more >>

Dear Coach:

I would like to be more flexible in my ability to satisfy my lover. Having had limited experience “topping” in the past, I wonder if there are techniques I can apply to help me overcome my inability to top when asked to. I start out aroused but then lose confidence as I attempt to follow though. Any ideas?

Top In Training

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