A study by the University of Michigan asserts that when gay male couples make and keep sexual agreements, this can be an effective HIV prevention strategy. However, according to the study results, more than half of the couples in the sample acknowledged breaking their agreement. Here is an article about the study:  http://www.datingadvice.com/studies/saagcm

What are your thoughts about this?

Dear Dr. Brian:

Not too long ago I met a guy in a culinary festival. The guy is from the U.S. and was part of a study for a semester program in PR.

The thing is we met the last five days of his exchange program and in the little time we spent together, I felt like we connected really well. I ended up liking him very much to the point where I can’t stop thinking of him.

We have maintained a good communication via phone and occasionally Facebook, but sometimes I feel lost and insecure about hoping for something that there might never be a chance for.

Is it worth giving it a shot?

Click on the following link to read the response:  http://www.datingadvice.com/q-and-a/i-met-a-guy-who-lives-in-another-country-is-it-worth-giving-it-a-shot

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Here’s Part 2 of my 3-part interview series with Harry Faddis of “The Quest of Life” radio show. This segment (9/16/11) covers secrets for keeping the spark alive in long-term gay relationships

http://web.me.com/harryfaddis/qol/TheQuestOfLife/TheQuestOfLife.html

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