Dear Dr. Brian:

I’ve been dating a guy now for 3 months and for the past few weeks, we haven’t been getting together as much and I don’t hear from him as often because he says he’s busy. I’ve asked him about it and he says he has a great time with me and looks forward to spending time together, but that he’s busy or tired. His cell phone seems to be off a lot more now than it used to be. Should I move on? Is he just saying that to be nice, or is he not interested in me anymore? I’m so confused! Help! read more >>

I was interviewed a few weeks back by Rick Lugash of “How to Master the Inner Game of Gay Dating” , a new site on Facebook that’s dedicated to providing helpful content for gay singles to promote more success in dating. I’m a big fan because I think we share similar visions and there’s some great articles and interviews posted that you should check out if you’re single and looking for Mr. Right. I tried to upload the podcast here for your convenience, but unfortunately the file size was too much for my site, so you can check out my interview and sign up to be a member of their Facebook Group on their Page if you like here .

The discussion deals with the impact that one’s sexual behavior can have when you’re dating and on a quest to find “The One.” It’s certainly a controversial topic for sure! What are your thoughts on casual sex when on the pursuit for a meaningful relationship? Does it help or hurt the cause? What are the boundaries, if any? Post your opinions below and let’s see what we all think about this tricky matter (pun not intended)…

Cheers,

Dr. Brian

Dear Dr. Brian:

I tend to be a possessive person and have a hard time trusting my partners.  I’m not sure where this insecurity comes from, but I’ve been burned pretty badly in the past from prior lovers who cheated on me. I’ve recently started dating someone new for the past couple of months. Between me not being able to trust him and his own religious beliefs of not having sex until marriage (we’d been having it all along), he decided he needed a break. It’s been a week now and I still haven’t heard from him. I told him I would wait for him to contact me, but I really miss him and want this to work out. What should I do? read more >>

Hi Dr. Brian:

I recently ended an 11-year relationship and met someone who was the catalyst to give me the courage to do so. He wasn’t the cause for the demise of my relationship, but only after meeting this new guy that I began to see what my life could be like and realized all that I had been missing. I am often plagued with insecurities and lack of trust and I certainly don’t want these feelings to ruin the beginning of something with this new man. He is very independent, and has never really been in a long-term relationship before and seems to require a lot of time alone. I, on the other hand, am someone who longs to be near the person I am with and at times like to have my own personal space. What is your advice on giving someone their personal space but helping him to see that spending time together is equally important to forging a strong bond and the foundation for a successful and lasting relationship? read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’m 23 and met a guy that I like a few months ago. I tried to kiss him on the second date, but he refused. Since then, I’ve been getting mixed signals from him. He calls me and we talk for hours on the phone. But when I’m alone with him in-person, he treats me as a friend and nothing more.  Why does he talk to me for hours on the phone when he knows how I feel about him? read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’m new to dating men and this is the first relationship I’ve been in with a man. I’m not sure if the guy I’m involved with really loves me the way I do him. He’s not really blessed financially and I tend to support him with a lot of his needs. I can’t help but wonder if he’s clinging on to me for that reason. I love him, but I don’t want to continue the relationship if he’s only with me for that purpose. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’ve recently started seeing a guy and things are going really well so far. He is open, genuine, and I’m very attracted to him and he seems to reciprocate my feelings of interest. My problem is that I have low self-esteem and I’m concerned about various things, such as my liking to view pornography and my fear that I’ll cheat on him as a form of self-sabotage. I’m working with a therapist, but I’m still struggling with feelings of insecurity and fear. Would it be best to kill the relationship until I can work these things out? read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I have met a guy that I really like, but I don’t know what to do because I’ve never really dated before. He is great and is someone I can see myself being with for a long time. I don’t want to mess this up…what should I do?

Dating Virgin read more >>

Dear Coach:

I’m 23 and met a guy about two months ago. I tried to kiss him on the second date, but he refused. Since then, I keep getting mixed signals from him. He calls me and we talk for hours on the phone. But when I am alone with him, he treats me as if I was nothing more than a friend. Why does he do this to me when he knows how I feel about him?  I want to talk to him about this, but how?

Perplexed read more >>