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It seems gay parenting is on the rise! Whether he has children from a prior heterosexual relationship, has gone through foster care or private adoption, or has fathered a child with a female friend or surrogate, a growing segment of the gay dating market is gay dads. As admirable and inspiring as this is, I was surprised to hear from a client recently that he finds his gay dad status to be a liability in the gay singles circuit. His experience has been that many gay men express interest initially until they discover that he has children and then they fade away into the woodwork. I’ve heard this sentiment echoed by other single dads. Why is this?

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Despite our knowledge about HIV/AIDS and other sexually-transmitted infections these days, recent studies (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/06/gay-men-partner-survey_n_3223447.html) point to a decrease in condom usage among gay and bisexual men. Why is this happening in spite of our knowledge of safer sex education and of the lethality that can be involved with contracting HIV?

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In my experience coaching single gay men, I have found that there are four main areas that, if successfully cultivated and worked on, tend to foster greater dating opportunities that yield results. If you’ve been having a difficult time establishing and maintaining relationships with the guys you meet, perhaps something may be amiss in one of these categories that you could direct your energy toward improving. Of course there are always factors outside our control in dating that can impede our progress (like the other guy sometimes!), but it’s important to avoid blaming and placing too much emphasis on the external. Instead, we can take responsibility by ensuring we are invested in our own personal development and becoming a “Mr. Right” as well. This is always an evolution as well since we are always developing and changing as we grow and mature. So take a look at these four categories below and conduct a self-assessment to determine where your strengths and weaknesses lie.

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A great majority of the struggles that I find men having with dating stem from anxiety. Whether it be insecurity of approaching someone you find interesting or a fear of intimacy or commitment, these dilemmas oftentimes have anxiety at their root. Anxiety is a big culprit in the great majority of male sexual dysfunctions too. Fear can hold us back from realizing our potential and can also be a huge obstacle to our achieving our dreams of goals—in life and love. Anxiety can feel paralyzing, but the good news is that it is highly treatable and you can overcome its power with dedication and courage. The problem with anxiety is that it leads a person to avoid, which poses a barrier to any growth or movement in a positive direction in one’s life. The only way out of anxiety is through it; the more something is avoided, the stronger a hold anxiety will have over you.

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Did you hear the news about the young Russian girl who tattooed the name of her new boyfriend she’d met online on her face after their first date? If not, here’s the article with photos: http://www.webpronews.com/face-tattoo-after-first-date-girl-has-bfs-name-inked-2013-02 . There’s been a controversial debate about this all over the Web, with some respecting the girl’s right to make decisions about her own body and others shaming her for making an impulsive choice that has now permanently “disfigured” her…all in the name of love.

As gay men, we’re no strangers to prejudice and ostracism. As a marginalized group, many of us learned from a young age to protect ourselves against homophobia, and therefore may be more armored to cope against social backlash and empowered to do what we want to do with our lives. This news story, however, brings out an important question that gay daters must contemplate as they search for love. What would you be willing to do for love? How far would you go?

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Anxiety can be crippling when it comes to dating, whether it be feeling intimidated about approaching a guy you’d like to meet, to worrying about deepening a connection with an already established dating partner, or to isolating from gay settings altogether to ward off the fears and disappointments of not finding someone. What all of these scenarios have in common is avoidance, and the more something is avoided, the stronger the “bolt instinct” becomes to where a desired goal is abandoned. And this doesn’t yield growth and happiness, often times leading to a state of stagnation and unfulfillment. The only way to get what you want is to take a proactive stance, to become a risk-taker, and “duke it out” with fear head-on. The only way out of anxiety is through it.

So how can you go after what you want in dating if you feel paralyzed with anxiety and are immobilized? Here are some tips to get you started in the right direction:

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Another common gay dating dilemma revolves around whether to have sex on the first date or not. This has often been a controversial subject among gay men, with opinions being  split right down the middle. There’s not necessarily a right or wrong answer, as these types of scenarios are rarely ever black-and-white. The decision as to whether to “hit the sheets” after having had a superb first date before the night is over is a personal one, fraught with uncertainty about the impact that being intimate so soon after meeting can have on the potential for securing a second date and beyond. Before reaching that point-of-no-return, it’s important to conduct an evaluation or a cost/benefit analysis of both the positive and negative ramifications of such an action. It’s also important to weigh this dilemma against your personal values system and to determine if being sexual early in the game is in alignment with your vision of what you’re looking for.

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You’re brimming with excitement as you prepare to go out on your first date with that interesting guy. The mystery and intrigue of the unknown makes those first encounters with a dating prospect exhilarating and full of possibility. But what do you do when you soon discover during your meeting with him that he’s not really boyfriend material? This scenario is one of those dating dilemmas that is often mishandled, and it’s important to approach these potentially awkward and difficult moments with savvy.

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Without a strategic plan in place, dating can be an overwhelming experience. Feeling like a “fish out of water”, many gay men may flounder in their efforts to try and find a compatible dating partner, typically being ruled by attraction and chemistry that usually can overshadow the fact that there is little in common beyond that spark. Having a solid understanding of who you are, what you stand for, and what you’re specifically looking for in terms of a partner and a relationship can be the best armor you have in protecting yourself in the dating jungle and in ensuring you’re aligning yourself with the most compatible men you’re meant to meet!

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Growing up gay, we didn’t receive any socialization on rites-of-passage when it comes to love and relationships; the only dating template we had to go on was the male-female variety. While dating and romance can take on similar qualities as our straight counterparts’, there are also some very real differences. With two men, who holds the door open? Who pays for the first date? Who does what? There are no clear, designated roles to follow like straight relationships have. While we are fortunate to not be bound to certain “rules” when it comes to dating, it at the same time can be confusing on how to navigate through various interpersonal situations. It also becomes challenging in trying to determine if the guy you’re seeing is a “keeper” or not based on the blurred roles. What follows are five qualities of gay men that could be considered “a good catch” in helping you to assess whether he’s got the goods!

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