Dear Coach:

I have been in a relationship with my partner for going on 4 years now and up until the past year it has been great. About six months ago, we moved to a different state across country; I protested the move, but my partner is originally from there and all his family is there and I decided to give in because I thought I owed it to the relationship. A few months into the move, my partner’s ill father started visiting for weeks at a time until it reached a point to where he never went back to his own home. It’s extremely difficult, particularly since we live in a small one bedroom apartment and our bedroom has been relegated to sleeping in the living room since my father-in-law’s move-in. read more >>

Dear Coach:

I’m 23 and met a guy about two months ago. I tried to kiss him on the second date, but he refused. Since then, I keep getting mixed signals from him. He calls me and we talk for hours on the phone. But when I am alone with him, he treats me as if I was nothing more than a friend. Why does he do this to me when he knows how I feel about him?  I want to talk to him about this, but how?

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Dear Coach:

I met my boyfriend 4 years ago and he has 2 children. About a year into the relationship, I knew there was something not adding up. Well, I found out the hard way that he is still married to his wife! I tried many times to talk to him about this, and get different answers each time.

He’s been living with me and pays very little since he has kids and college expenses for them; but I have to say, it does bother me sometimes and it leaves me wondering where my future will be heading in this situation. Please help! read more >>

Dear Coach:

My ex-boyfriend wants to get back with me after a recent breakup. Should we reconcile? read more >>

Dear Coach:

My boyfriend and I talk about marriage all the time and our future. This is the real deal; the last man I will ever be with. I am ready to move to the next level of our relationship without any doubts or regrets. My boyfriend, however, is not ready yet. What does that mean?  Why talk about marriage and a future if he is not ready for the living-together step? Is it me? read more >>

Dear Coach:

I’m in a new relationship with a great guy.  We’re still in the dating 
stage.  During intimacy, I have times when I’m unable to end by 
cumming.  It frustrates me more than it does him.  What can I do? read more >>

My partner and I have been together for 20 years and are very much in love.  We are both very successful. I am out with friends and family. He is not out with his family – or at work.  We have a house together. When he is on the phone i have to remain silent so as to not be  heard.  He often gets dragged out  to events after work because nobody knows he has someone waiting for him.  When his family comes to visit – I move into a hotel for a night or a few days. read more >>

Dear Coach:

My ex and I broke up a couple of months ago, but since then  he’s continuously trying to get in touch with my friends and me  through email, text, calls, Facebook, etc. He won’t leave me or my friends alone!

If I block him online,  then he just make a new email.  It’s getting kind of ridiculous and annoying, and just generally not right. What makes it worse is that whenever he gets in contact with me or  anyone else he’s constantly lying about me, and when he does reach me, he just keeps telling me about everything in his life  and I just dont want to hear it. I have no idea how to just stop him. Any advice would be awesome, thanks. 

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While this isn’t a dating or relationship question, I received this letter from a reader and was particularly struck by it and wanted to share this post with the community. Please give it a read and feel free to offer any of your own advice or suggestions to this college student seeking some direction. It’s a tricky one with multiple perspectives!

Dear Coach:

I am an 18 year-old gay guy in college who has been “out” about his sexuality for 
roughly two years. I have multiple problems that stem from one major  problem. I’m not sure if I should be “out” on Campus. I am going to a  school that is of moderate right-wing affiliation that has been endorsed by anti-gay politicians in the community, and as I’ve been doing research, I’ve noticed, they are notoriously slow at  implementing GLBT programs. The problem is, I am majoring in Medicine, so I have high hopes and great challenges ahead.

I’ve been debating that if I “come out” at my school, would that be a plus or a negative to the future of my medical career? On one side of the argument, I know I should focus 100% on my education, regardless of my orientation; on the other hand, I have  supreme leadership qualities, and I quite often do not follow the  mainstream population, and I feel, if I don’t come out, I am leaving  my fellow closeted gay friends in a bind and am enabling homophobia.  All too much, we gay men are afraid to come out and  be who we are, which, in my opinion, makes it harder for the next generation to come out. My mother insists I be closeted in college, as  she feels our state has not quite adapted to the homosexual  understanding.  read more >>