I was recently interviewed by “Name It” Magazine for an article they were writing about gay relationships and sexuality. One question they asked was, “Why is sex so important to gay men?” Here was my response: read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’m new to dating men and this is the first relationship I’ve been in with a man. I’m not sure if the guy I’m involved with really loves me the way I do him. He’s not really blessed financially and I tend to support him with a lot of his needs. I can’t help but wonder if he’s clinging on to me for that reason. I love him, but I don’t want to continue the relationship if he’s only with me for that purpose. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

My partner of 9 years lost his job a year ago after having downloaded some pornography on his computer at work. He hasn’t had any luck since then securing new employment and the longer that time goes on without his finding a job, he’s become increasingly more depressed and hopeless. He’s gained a considerable amount of weight, his health is suffering, and he sleeps all day and contributes very little to the household maintenance. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian,

I’m an experienced dater who is dating someone quite shy. Things have  been going well over the last several months, and I’ve been well-behaved and considerate. I’ve also been sure to live my own life while getting caught up in all the feelings associated a budding  “interest.” While things are going well, I’ve vocalized my “like” for him, when in fact, I’ve got some pretty strong feelings for him. He’s so shy and  quiet, I’m scared to turn him off. And, he’s never been in a  relationship before.  So, do you have any advice? I feel as though there is a communication deficit and I’d like to bridge the gap, encouraging him  to express what it is he might feel for me, while respecting his gentler nature. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’ve recently started seeing a guy and things are going really well so far. He is open, genuine, and I’m very attracted to him and he seems to reciprocate my feelings of interest. My problem is that I have low self-esteem and I’m concerned about various things, such as my liking to view pornography and my fear that I’ll cheat on him as a form of self-sabotage. I’m working with a therapist, but I’m still struggling with feelings of insecurity and fear. Would it be best to kill the relationship until I can work these things out? read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

My boyfriend recently broke up with me and reconciled with his ex-boyfriend. This came as a complete shock and completely tore my heart apart. It’s something neither of us expected he could ever do. We were together for over 7 months and blissfully happy, even having committed to moving in together a couple months ago at his suggestion. It’s almost been a month since our breakup and I don’t know what to do. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I’ve been dating a man for well over a year now and while we’ve had a tremendously difficult relationship, the “ups” have far outweighed the “downs”. I’ve learned that a lot of our issues come from my insecurities. I can’t seem to build trust him and when I do, my own paranoia tears it down. The only reason I’ve ever had to be cautious of him is because of the fact that his prior relationships were non-monogamous and I’m the first guy that he’s chosen to be exclusive with. He’s always been up front with me about his past and has never tried to hide it. read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I am somewhat embarrassed to ask you this question, but I figured you would be a great person to ask. I have a HUGE foot fetish and get turned on by men’s feet. Where does a foot fetish come from? I believe we are born with our sexual orientation–so is this something that we are just born with or something that may develop over time? I remember liking men’s feet since I was like 4 years old.

Mr. Foot Guy read more >>

Dear Dr. Brian:

I have met a guy that I really like, but I don’t know what to do because I’ve never really dated before. He is great and is someone I can see myself being with for a long time. I don’t want to mess this up…what should I do?

Dating Virgin read more >>

Dear Coach:

My mom called me today to tell me that my brother had told her and my father that he was gay; she had assumed that I’d known. My brother has not told me yet, but I’ve had my suspicions for quite some time now. I love and support my brother and would stand beside him as an openly gay man. How should I talk to him about something he may be too afraid to tell me? read more >>