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The illustrious first date can be wrought with a combination of excitement and nervousness, causing you to potentially become tongue-tied and paralyzed when you’re sitting across from that hottie not knowing what to say next. Well never fear! Below are a list of potential topics that you can have at your disposal should your mind go blank or one of those horrifying moments of silence occurs when you’re conversing with a new dating prospect. But beware—there are also certain subjects you’ll want to avoid so that you won’t risk offending him or making him want to bolt from the scene thinking you’re bad news.

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I’ve been getting a lot of letters lately from gay men interested in dating guys either much older or much younger than themselves and questioning whether these “May/December” relationships really work out in the long run. I personally don’t believe age gaps in relationships are as stigmatizing or concerning in the gay community; perhaps this has to do with the smaller pooler of dating prospects available, tendencies toward more open-mindedness and liberal attitudes, and already being more conditioned and accepting of diversity. But in short…yes, they can work! But these relationship pairings can pose some unique challenges that will require extra diligence and commitment to communication and compromise. And with most relationship dynamics, there are many rewards and difficulties inherent in these dating couplings.

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One of the most important make-it-or-break-it moments in dating is your introduction when approaching someone you’re interested in getting to know. Since first impressions and judgments are formed within the first couple of minutes (or less) of meeting someone, your presentation during your approach is critical in ensuring that that hot guy you want to strike up a conversation with reciprocates an interest. This means that what you say, how you say it, and how you posture yourself with your body language all carry a lot of weight in how the other guy is going to interpret your advances, and the meanings he’ll attribute to it. You’ll of course want to put your best foot forward to increase your chances of success in charming and hooking him into having a flirtatious chat, and one of the strategies that you can employ in heightening your appeal to him is delivering a creative and witty “opening line.”

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What do you do when all that’s on your mind is getting back together with your ex-boyfriend? Perhaps you made a premature judgment and terminated the relationship before you allowed it to mature. Or maybe you made a mistake and had an indiscretion that resulted in his leaving you. Whatever the scenario, fantasies about a reconciliation can drive you crazy without a game plan. What follows are some insights and tips for how to go about reaching out to your ex in an attempt to win back his affections and start over on a clean slate.

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With all of the Gay Pride celebrations going on this month, our community is paying homage to being true to ourselves and loving who we are. And this message also holds an important lesson when it comes to being single and dating. Simply put, our self-esteem refers to how we feel about ourselves. Your view of yourself has a direct impact on how you show up for your life, including how you approach dating and relate to others.

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It seems gay parenting is on the rise! Whether he has children from a prior heterosexual relationship, has gone through foster care or private adoption, or has fathered a child with a female friend or surrogate, a growing segment of the gay dating market is gay dads. As admirable and inspiring as this is, I was surprised to hear from a client recently that he finds his gay dad status to be a liability in the gay singles circuit. His experience has been that many gay men express interest initially until they discover that he has children and then they fade away into the woodwork. I’ve heard this sentiment echoed by other single dads. Why is this?

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Despite our knowledge about HIV/AIDS and other sexually-transmitted infections these days, recent studies (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/06/gay-men-partner-survey_n_3223447.html) point to a decrease in condom usage among gay and bisexual men. Why is this happening in spite of our knowledge of safer sex education and of the lethality that can be involved with contracting HIV?

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In my experience coaching single gay men, I have found that there are four main areas that, if successfully cultivated and worked on, tend to foster greater dating opportunities that yield results. If you’ve been having a difficult time establishing and maintaining relationships with the guys you meet, perhaps something may be amiss in one of these categories that you could direct your energy toward improving. Of course there are always factors outside our control in dating that can impede our progress (like the other guy sometimes!), but it’s important to avoid blaming and placing too much emphasis on the external. Instead, we can take responsibility by ensuring we are invested in our own personal development and becoming a “Mr. Right” as well. This is always an evolution as well since we are always developing and changing as we grow and mature. So take a look at these four categories below and conduct a self-assessment to determine where your strengths and weaknesses lie.

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A great majority of the struggles that I find men having with dating stem from anxiety. Whether it be insecurity of approaching someone you find interesting or a fear of intimacy or commitment, these dilemmas oftentimes have anxiety at their root. Anxiety is a big culprit in the great majority of male sexual dysfunctions too. Fear can hold us back from realizing our potential and can also be a huge obstacle to our achieving our dreams of goals—in life and love. Anxiety can feel paralyzing, but the good news is that it is highly treatable and you can overcome its power with dedication and courage. The problem with anxiety is that it leads a person to avoid, which poses a barrier to any growth or movement in a positive direction in one’s life. The only way out of anxiety is through it; the more something is avoided, the stronger a hold anxiety will have over you.

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Did you hear the news about the young Russian girl who tattooed the name of her new boyfriend she’d met online on her face after their first date? If not, here’s the article with photos: http://www.webpronews.com/face-tattoo-after-first-date-girl-has-bfs-name-inked-2013-02 . There’s been a controversial debate about this all over the Web, with some respecting the girl’s right to make decisions about her own body and others shaming her for making an impulsive choice that has now permanently “disfigured” her…all in the name of love.

As gay men, we’re no strangers to prejudice and ostracism. As a marginalized group, many of us learned from a young age to protect ourselves against homophobia, and therefore may be more armored to cope against social backlash and empowered to do what we want to do with our lives. This news story, however, brings out an important question that gay daters must contemplate as they search for love. What would you be willing to do for love? How far would you go?

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