Question: Can two bottoms in a monogamous gay relationship make it work? The answer to this….a resounding yes! But this will also depend on what you put into the relationship, as well as the attitude that goes along with it. I recently wrote an article about top/top couple pairings, and you can read about this here: http://www.datingadvice.com/advice/can-there-be-two-tops-in-a-relationship

It’s quite interesting to me the increase in questions that have been coming in about the viability of top/top and bottom/bottom relationships, and it’s actually something that’s concerning to me. One of the advantages about being gay in our culture is that we don’t have to be bound by rigid, stereotyped roles. Since we don’t have a template for how our relationships “should” be structured in the way that our straight counterparts do, we have the freedom and flexibility to create and tailor our relationships according to our own wishes, preferences, and talents. What’s concerning is that we seem to be dichotomizing our relationships and sexual roles through a binary lens that not only limits our potential, but also limits the available dating pool.

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So what do you do when the object of your desire is a gay man who is “in the closet” about his sexuality? Are these dating relationships viable? Generally speaking, the prognosis for relationship success tends to be stronger when gay men are of similar “outness” statuses. There tends to be less tension and friction due to the mutual positions they hold with sexual identity comfort. For example, in situations when one man is “out” and the other is “closeted”, the more “out” man often times feels like he has to slip back into the closet to accommodate his partner and this can feel like he’s going backwards in his personal development and can lead to resentment. The more closeted man can often times feel pressured to be more visible and exposed before he’s emotionally ready to handle those situations and can cause a spike in anxiety, and perhaps even withdrawal and disengagement from the relationship.

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Dear Dr. Brian:

I’m a very quiet guy when alone. All my friends say when people first meet me, people feel like I’m about to beat them/kill them. They say it’s the way my eyes are, but I don’t know how that makes guys so afraid of me.

I’m not bad looking, bit overweight, not particularly tall (just 5 feet 9 inches), so I don’t why this seems to drive men away in fear.

How do I stop being creepy?

-Jay

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Dear Dr. Brian:

I have borderline Asperger syndrome, anxiety/panic/depression that is controlled by meds and PTSD.

The Asperger’s forces me to disclose everything whether its appropriate or not. I’m a hopeless romantic with all of this baggage. I usually torpedo things by the third date.

Is there any hope for me?

-Frank (Rhode Island)

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There’s no qualms about it…we live in a digital world now where technology is king and information and immediate gratification is readily available with the click of a button. It’s even impacted our dating and sex lives; in a matter of seconds you can pull up a slew of pornographic images to whet your sexual appetite or peruse a dating personals site to scan for potential matches with your cell phone or laptop when you’re on a break from work or traveling home on a subway. It’s that easy now! But with this quick accessibility and push-button mentality, does it really serve the needs and ultimate prognosis for those single gay men who are seeking a soul mate for a long-term partnership? Can you find love on Facebook? Is Match.com and all those other dating sites the answer? Let’s do an examination of the pros and cons of using social media in your dating efforts to see how it shapes up.

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Dear Dr. Brian:

I am 48 and I’ve not had any luck with getting any dates when I go on to gay dating sites. Can you help me?

-Thomas (Indiana)

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One of the biggest dating traps for gay men is becoming romantically interested in straight men. Many a storyline has been written in porn about the seduction of gay and straight men in various sexual scenarios, and this can certainly be hot from a dramatic and titillation standpoint. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this because our attractions are unique to each of us and all of us are able to appreciate beauty, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

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One of the big “question mark” situations that is quite common among singles is when their ex-boyfriend comes back into the picture. Sparks start flying again and you both begin to ponder the possibility of reconciling and starting a new relationship with each other. You feel torn because you’re feeling a renewed attraction with someone familiar and have a resurgence of fantasies of what could be, while at the same time you recognize that you broke up with him once before for a particular reason.

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I often get letters from guys who are in the throes of dating relationships with men of the same sexual role preference (two tops, the ones doing the penetrating during sex, and two bottoms, the ones being penetrated) and find themselves experiencing frustration and conflict when their sexual fulfillment takes a hit and their needs are unmet. This is a common scenario and can create strain in an otherwise perfectly compatible partnership when everything is aligned just right except the bedroom satisfaction element.

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