Your eyes catch the handsome stranger from across the bar and you find yourself captivated—he’s just your type. “Go talk to him,” your friend nudges. As your head swirls with imagery on how you might approach him, your body tenses as you begin to worry about how you might be perceived and fears of rejection and embarrassment immobilize you. Frozen in place, you try to muster up the courage to put one foot in front of the other, but before you can contemplate your opening line, he walks out of the bar with a group of his friends. Opportunity lost.
Is this scenario all too familiar? I conducted a poll on my website once asking single gay men if they tended to initiate contact with a man they found interesting or if they waited to be pursued. The overwhelming majority of respondents indicated that they were passive daters, meaning they waited for men to approach them to start conversations. The sad reality of this is that if most men wait to be approached, very few contacts are made. How many great relationships could have gotten off the ground had someone made that first move? Refuse to allow yourself to be one of those liability statistics. To be successful in dating, one must be a proactive dater by being in the driver’s seat and making things happen through one’s own initiative.
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